Reddit young girl dating an older guy

The pretense of finding someone who can be a partner and equal disappears women both young and old get to see that all that really matters is how you look in a bikini. Except! Some older men have this secret other option, whereby they get to opt out of the system: When they acquire enough money or power, they can basically trade that capital for the thing women have that’s valued by society: youth and beauty. For most of us, in dating those things kind of go out the window, but then people tend to pair off with partners at about the same attractiveness level that they occupy.

In other areas of life, we gesture toward valuing things beyond the superficial. Older men who date much younger women make the transactional, hierarchical nature of romance explicit and reveal the extent to which men and women are still playing by very different rulebooks.